Are you aware of the quality of your language... * Is it optimistic as well as realistic? * Is it warm and genuine? Do your conversations leave the other person hopeful... * Even if you need to say something negative? Do you allow others time to speak... * And really hear what they are saying? Do you make shared decisions... * Do you involve others where you can? * Or do you always push your ideas through without finding consensus? Do you stop and celebrate when the group has achieved something... * Or do you just remind them of how much further they need to get? Are you organised enough to waste time... * Do you build in space for conversations that strengthens links, builds friendships and is person-centred? * Do you give time for this to both young people and adult colleagues? Are you aware of that mysterious thing called 'atmosphere'... * between individuals and groups Can you say you are sorry when things go wrong... * Do you give time to repair connections? * Or waste energy trying to avoid the person involved for weeks? |
Are you realistic in setting standards... * Or do you expect the impossible from young people and act surprised when they fail? Do you gain support for basic rules... * Through reasoned argument rather than setting arbitrary rules that suit the adults involved? Do you put boundaries around your own feelings as an adult... * Or does anger, favouritism or sadness creep in to blur the picture? Are you clear and consistent in dealing with breakdowns in behaviour... * While still respecting the dignity of people and their responsibility for their own actions? Are you committed to continual repetition of the basic rules and values... * In order to reinforce a safe environment? |
Do you notice changing patterns in individual behaviour... * And reflect on their significance? Do you respond to affection or aggression in a balanced and secure way... * So that the young person can grow through those feelings safely? Do you notice absences as well as who are present... * Do you notice who is withdrawing or been pushed to the edge of the group? Do you remember names, favourite music, stories... * and other details about young people? Do you recognise needs that require special help... * And be ready to refer young people to others who can help * Or do you want to solve problems yourself? Do you correct and praise quietly when appropriate... * In order to get the message across more clearly, * Especially to young people who are quieter? |
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